The DVD Question

Hello blogosphere,

Coaches get to ask many questions.  In fact, I spend most of my days asking questions and listening to clients answer them.  They are not answering the questions for me, of course, but for themselves.  Sometimes, the question is simple like “What would you like to talk about?”, “When are you at your best?” or even the Dr. Phil question “How’s that working out for you?”. These questions work, but I love provocative questions.  One of my favorites is “What Do You See?”  It sounds simple enough, but let me set it up.

Imagine that we are having a conversation and I pull out a DVD.  Not a normal DVD, mind you, but a DVD that has a fancy inscription “Your Name – Highlights of 2016”.  It actually has your name.  2016?  That’s five years from now!  How could you possibly …

Highlights of My Life - 2016

It’s an exercise.  I don’t really have such a DVD, but roll with me here.  So you put this DVD into a DVD player and press “PLAY”.  What Do You See?  What would you like to see?  I tell you that the video is 4 minutes long, professionally produced and contains the highlights of your world in 5 years.  Think about this for a while.  Get into a comfortable chair, kick off your shoes, and just let the scenario wash over you.  What would you want to see?  What do you look like in 5 years?  What about other key elements of your life – the physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, financial, relationships, family.  Spend some time writing down how you feel.  In my experience, this exercise conjures up emotions and desires about where you’d like to see yourself.

This is just another way of approaching the “GOALS” question – however the DVD question tends to eliminate any focus on short-term goals like “clean my office”, “lose five pounds”, “write that report” etc…     It expands your horizon beyond the trivial to those things that are profoundly important to you.

“Plan for the future, because that’s where you are going to spend the rest of your life.” – Mark Twain

Once you’ve painted the mental picture of your “desired future state“, people often find it helpful to create a physical picture of your future.  These Vision Boards or Manifestation Maps serve to capture the images of where you are headed.  Cut out pictures from magazines, draw them or take them from the Internet.  It doesn’t have to be pretty.  Place your finished product where you can see it regularly.  Please let me know how this works out for you.

All the best,


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About eddecosta

Business and Executive Coach
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