What Barbershop Are You Hanging Around?

Hello my friends,

As everyone who has read my writing or heard me speak knows, I love metaphors, analogies and interesting ways to express an idea.  Well, this post is no different.

As our children have grown (they’re not done!), we’ve taken the opportunity to discuss the importance of choosing the right “people, places and things” to include in their lives.  While we all influence the world around us, it is important to understand that the world around us has an influence upon us.  It is a lesson that most parents impress upon their children.

Years ago, one of my children put it beautifully when he said “When you hang around in the barbershop, pretty soon you’re going to get a haircut.”  I loved the image immediately, and I love it now.

So, your life is a barbershop.  My life is a barbershop too.  There are people in our barbershops, so let’s start with them.  Why?  We start with the people because their “haircut” choices are likely to have the greatest influence on our choices – all of them.  We find ourselves behaving in ways that make us feel like part of the group.Would your mother approve of the people in your barbershop?  She will, if they possess some or all of the following characteristics:

  • they have complementary skills and compatible values to you
  • they are strategic in nature – they think “long-term” and help you to do the same
  • they are GIVERS, contributing to the world and expect you to give your best
  • they possess a positive outlook on the world, seeing possibility and potentiality everywhere, especially in challenging circumstances
  • they strive for excellence, demonstrate good character and maturity

There are more characteristics, but you get the picture.  By the way, this list is not just for teenagers.  Hardly!  It is equally applicable to CEOs and other business leaders.  Look at the people who you interact with more frequently than anyone else – these are the people in your barbershop. You have choices in life.  One of the most important choices is WHO gets into your inner circle.

As the saying goes, if you’re the smartest, nicest, hardest working, most giving person in your crowd  . . .  you’re in the WRONG crowd.  Uh, or barbershop.

All the best,


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About eddecosta

Business and Executive Coach
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2 Responses to What Barbershop Are You Hanging Around?

  1. Sherry says:

    Glad to be in the barbershop with you this week.

  2. Myra Hickel says:

    Whales only get harpooned after they visit the outer lining, and turtles are only able to advance once they stick their neck out, but investors face risk it doesn’t matter what they are doing.
    The superior man understands what exactly is right; the inferior man understands what will sell.

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