People are complex creatures. You are. I am. We’re all complicated. We can have a happy nature, positive outlook or great mood, then enter a period of darkness, sadness or melancholy. We can want to be around others, be the life of the party, then yearn for solitude and silence.
So which one is the “real” you? The founder of modern psychology, Carl Jung, described our apparently contradictory nature as the “duality of man”. This is the intuitive and psychologically confusing nature of man to be twofold – the state of having two opposing qualities. But this is a blog post, so I’m not diving into Jungian theory. I recently heard a simple story that beautifully suggests what we are to do about this phenomenon of duality:
An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.”
The boy thought about it, and asked, “grandfather, which wolf wins?”
The old man quietly replied, “the one you feed.”
So, my friend, which wolf are you feeding today?
We all have our moments, so the good wolf doesn’t get all of the food. The key to the story is free will. We can, and do, choose which part of our nature to feed. Each day … each meeting …. with every person …. regardless of the circumstances …. we have the power, authority and freedom to choose! The wolf metaphor is powerful because it is so easily visualized. At any given moment, we choose our response to the stimulus that the world presents to us. So which wolf are you feeding? Which shirt will you wear today?
Choose wisely. Today, tomorrow and every day ….. color me yellow.
All the best,
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