Hello my friends,
Don’t worry, be happy … Bobby McFerrin made this line famous, and possibly irritating to some folks. Annoying or not, I am going to agree with the sentiment and hopefully deliver some ways to reduce or eliminate the worry in your life.
Do you like horror movies? Whether you do or not, you know that there are scenes in them that are intended to surprise us, shock us, fill us with anticipatory fear and yes, to terrorize us. That’s what they do.
Imagine, however, if you watched the same scary movie again and again, say 100 times. I am not suggested that you actually do this, of course, just that you imagine doing it. How would you respond to the “scary parts” after that many viewings? Probably not so scary anymore, right? Definitely not suspenseful or surprising anymore! This is because you know precisely how the movie ends. No need to worry! I’ve seen this all before… get it? got it? good!
I’d like to apply this same phenomenon to how we prepare for otherwise worrisome elements in our real lives – meetings, strained relationships, conversations that will be challenging, big exams, the list is endless … Some people are able to prepare for and go through such experiences without excess stress and worry. Others … not so much. They get petrified or paralyzed with fear, apprehension, doubt and worry.
So how do people do it? In part, they use the power of their subconscious minds, which accounts for only 90% of brain activity!! Did you know that our subconscious minds are unable to differentiate between reality and that which is vividly imagined? The best athletes in the world know this, which is why they vividly imagine (visualize!) themselves performing at their best, over and over again.You can do this too! See yourself performing at your “event” successfully. Do it. See it clearly. What are you wearing? How do you sound? How does the other person(s) respond to you? How does it feel when you succeed? Powerful visualization is a terrific tool, commonly used by people in all walks of life. Try it … I’ll bet you like it.
All the best,
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